Today is one of those days, where if I had not made a good friend on the website, I would give up on online dating. I have a friend that I love to talk to on the dating site and that (as I've said) should be treasured. Otherwise, it has been pretty much flat today. Despite my continued plea to hear only from men in New York, today's views or flirts or whatever were from Arizona, California, Maine, Colorado, Florida, and Texas. Awesome. Also, although my friend Sarah finds it charming, I cannot chat with a man who puts the lyrics to "I feel pretty" all throughout his profile, changing them to fit a man. Nor do I really find it appealing when every single picture of a man in his profile is in a muscle T-shirt. And, lastly, I had one of those repeat and then disappear message-senders, oh and a man who sent me one message, I sent a message back thinking I was being witty, and he blocked me ! Could I have been that offensive? Did he not understand my New York sarcasm? Was he offended that I am a Christian (which was relevant to my joke)?
Cannot lose sleep over it, off to take a walk with the dogs as it is finally not in the single digits anymore. have a great night and good luck to you !!
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Thursday, March 6, 2014
What's in a profile??
I admit it - I did not spend hours on my profile. I have had friends offer to help; I don't want anyone to edit it, look at it, fine-tune it...I wanted to wing it, have it be the real me - put a bit of thought as to the few things that I knew I HAD to say (i.e. I am Christian, I am a parent, I have dogs), express my devotion to my city and get on with it. I know myself and if I began to make it more lengthy, more in-depth (as any of my long-suffering friends can tell you) I would end up with a novel. I would fret, edit, change it....jumping on soap boxes (vaccinate your kids! Adopt a rescue dog/cat!) and nobody wants to read all of that.
Similarly, I took simple iPhone selfies and I didn't have a professional photographer take my shots, nor did I use shots from 20 years ago. I even have a full-body shot (with the company of a high school bff in the picture with me which made me feel more comfortable) even though I am working hard on losing weight. Fair is fair.
That said....
Some people really should have an editor. Or a friend. Or for God's sake, use spell check?
Here are some cut & pastes from profiles that I just. don't. understand.
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Similarly, I took simple iPhone selfies and I didn't have a professional photographer take my shots, nor did I use shots from 20 years ago. I even have a full-body shot (with the company of a high school bff in the picture with me which made me feel more comfortable) even though I am working hard on losing weight. Fair is fair.
That said....
Some people really should have an editor. Or a friend. Or for God's sake, use spell check?
Here are some cut & pastes from profiles that I just. don't. understand.
I am wanting to share time with a beautiful
woman, be tickled just right inside. I like that, and want more…….
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Me: music. Paints good
conversation, responsable
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*Hello. My phone
has a flashlite and an fm radio but no camera. My vice is bolted to the end of
my workbench. My shoes are muddy by day but shined at night. I've learned that
no good deed goes unpunished but that does not deter me.*
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A
little about me: Restaurant
im a good guy. im not joe dink thats always looking for a better deal and treating people like crap. so if anyone still wants a nice guy, its up to you. Nothing else to say.
-------*to be fair, this profile is intelligible but I just don't think I'm clever enough to get why I should be amused/attracted to it?
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Today's winner
The absolute least appealing profile of the day.
A little about me: I love being with my woman and having so much fun and I love sex all the time so if u like me I,am here for u.in new York and email me OK.
Has he not heard of the word. "Subtle"?
A little about me: I love being with my woman and having so much fun and I love sex all the time so if u like me I,am here for u.in new York and email me OK.
Has he not heard of the word. "Subtle"?
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Profile names
Pigeon is viewing me again . He lives in Wisconsin. I live in NYC and my profile name is...my first & middle names. Why pigeon ?
That said, why sohot4u, why iamfitat57, why bigdaddylove, why ianalyzu?
What's in a name ? I like something straightforward, or, something artistic or interesting...but pigeon? I just can't bring myself to read past it. I live in NYC, I hate pigeons. Sorry, feeling grumbly tonight.
That said, why sohot4u, why iamfitat57, why bigdaddylove, why ianalyzu?
What's in a name ? I like something straightforward, or, something artistic or interesting...but pigeon? I just can't bring myself to read past it. I live in NYC, I hate pigeons. Sorry, feeling grumbly tonight.
Monday, March 3, 2014
Profiles that puzzle me...
"If I wanted someone too lecture me I would have married Einstein. I'm a man of few words this is killing me ,I'm I above my limit please god I hope I am, if I'm not yada, yada, yada, that has too be enough.. Just have too add this I'm not mad nor angry in this pic , despite what everybody thinks its just me being me. I don't work we'll with camera,s that evident. So belive it or not I'm happy.. That leaves me with 743 letters left so I'm torn between a great philosophic rant about what life means to me , or how great tree,s are , or why you should like this , but that's not me ! I say view it , read it , if like it , that's great if you don't it's still good. "
What would a woman possibly say to this?
What would a woman possibly say to this?
Sunday, March 2, 2014
Mick Jagger
It's the night of the Oscar's, which I love. So before I watch it, I thought I'd share one quick and rather vulgar note from a "gentleman" online:
"I am kinky sexually and do not like vanilla. So if you want 'accountant' sex, move on, if you want 'Mick Jagger' sex - that would be me."
Happy Hollywood Sunday!
"I am kinky sexually and do not like vanilla. So if you want 'accountant' sex, move on, if you want 'Mick Jagger' sex - that would be me."
Happy Hollywood Sunday!
Saturday, March 1, 2014
Andre
Today I thought I might share with you another story of a man who was not honest online.
That's right, not honest online...shocking I know. Andre is Dutch and a widower with two adorable girls. I was able to find him on Facebook which was a nice change from the several men before him who did not use any kind of social media and did not have any information about them on Google at all. Zero ability to look them up. So Andre seemed very nice , but here we go - he needed to take an overseas trip immediately for his antiques business. This antiques business also could not be found online, but I let it go.
Flash forward a couple of weeks; Andre messages me that he would like to ask me a favor: could he have a few boxes of precious antiques shipped to my apartment? Mind you we had not met yet. And still, here I was, apparently the only person that he trusted to hold these antiques for him until his return. Just out of curiosity I asked a friend of mine in the business and she said it was probably something illegal like ivory that was not allowed to be shipped into the country. My background a.k.a. growing up in New York in the 60s and 70s made me suspicious about drugs etc. and obviously I turned him down. This previously very nice man suddenly became very irate; texting me to say that I was extremely selfish and obviously did not care about his success or his business at all.
I did not hear from Andre after that... but for fun I looked up his Facebook page a couple of weeks later & it had been taken down. With this kind of man you are left wondering, were the girls in the picture on Facebook even his? Was he in antiques dealer? So many questions, if one really cared enough to worry about it. He was sweet but I did not invest a lot of time, and so I was not terribly crushed.
Also, having an open FBI case already, I have been told about many of the warning signs such as having boxes shipped to you or asking you to ship things for them... pretty much anything that has to do with the mail is a bad idea !!
Andre was a short but sweet online experience that left me wondering if he was really a widower, if any of his story was true, all of it was true or none of it was true. Of course the sad thing about being hidden behind a computer is that you will never know.
Onward & upward.
That's right, not honest online...shocking I know. Andre is Dutch and a widower with two adorable girls. I was able to find him on Facebook which was a nice change from the several men before him who did not use any kind of social media and did not have any information about them on Google at all. Zero ability to look them up. So Andre seemed very nice , but here we go - he needed to take an overseas trip immediately for his antiques business. This antiques business also could not be found online, but I let it go.
Flash forward a couple of weeks; Andre messages me that he would like to ask me a favor: could he have a few boxes of precious antiques shipped to my apartment? Mind you we had not met yet. And still, here I was, apparently the only person that he trusted to hold these antiques for him until his return. Just out of curiosity I asked a friend of mine in the business and she said it was probably something illegal like ivory that was not allowed to be shipped into the country. My background a.k.a. growing up in New York in the 60s and 70s made me suspicious about drugs etc. and obviously I turned him down. This previously very nice man suddenly became very irate; texting me to say that I was extremely selfish and obviously did not care about his success or his business at all.
I did not hear from Andre after that... but for fun I looked up his Facebook page a couple of weeks later & it had been taken down. With this kind of man you are left wondering, were the girls in the picture on Facebook even his? Was he in antiques dealer? So many questions, if one really cared enough to worry about it. He was sweet but I did not invest a lot of time, and so I was not terribly crushed.
Also, having an open FBI case already, I have been told about many of the warning signs such as having boxes shipped to you or asking you to ship things for them... pretty much anything that has to do with the mail is a bad idea !!
Andre was a short but sweet online experience that left me wondering if he was really a widower, if any of his story was true, all of it was true or none of it was true. Of course the sad thing about being hidden behind a computer is that you will never know.
Onward & upward.
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