Well, I finally met him. The middle-aged, pathetic, disgraceful serial cheater. I will not use his name here just because he has a girlfriend who seems to be hanging in with him, and she deserves more respect than that.
So, I have a really good friend that I have made thru the site. I just have to preface this blog entry by saying that he alone has made this entire adventure worthwhile. But knowing that we are just supposed to be friends, I have gone on several dates with a man that I met – yes on the site.
He seemed different, and not in a radical way. Just in a gentlemanly, lovely way. We had several dates, he was complementary, kind, interested in what I had to say. And it was going smoothly. He worked a lot of hours which I didn't mind, because I don't like being suffocated in the beginning of a relationship. Or I guess for that matter, at any point in the relationship. (:
Flash forward to this morning, I received a phone call from an unknown number. I ignored it a couple of times but they kept calling so I answered it. There was a woman's voice on the phone asking if I was the person that had been calling this particular phone number. So I said yes, convinced instantly that something had happened and God forbid he had run his truck into a pole. No, in fact that wasn't it. She is his long-suffering girlfriend, and she saw my number flashing up when he was taking a nap. I am not the first woman that has been involved with him since they have been together, and this is not the first dating website that he is been found on.
I apologized, and she knew that it was not my fault, fortunately believed that I did not know about her. I promised her that I would certainly never call him again. And I won't. But I had the joyful revengeful feeling that one gets only from saying what they want to say. I sent him a message on the site telling him that he is the worst kind of cheater. A middle aged man who cheats on his girlfriend, and preys on women who are looking for a serious relationship. I said that I thought he was disgraceful, and disgusting, and then I never want to hear from him again.
It won't matter, I won't upset him - men like that don't care about women like me. I was his affair, I was less than zero. I feel much sympathy for his girlfriend and I hope that he becomes a little bit more worthy of somebody who is obviously so faithful and patient. She has introduced her son to this man, and thankfully I had not. If you have ever been cheated on or betrayed, well, it's a special kind of pain. So today I am grateful for her calling me before I became too involved or attached. And guess who the first person I texted was? Yes, the friend that I made on the site. As my girlfriend says, one good friend is worth a lot more than a lot of unworthy boyfriends.
This really isn't an exciting story, it's probably just a very common one, sadly. What makes a man who has a girlfriend in his life pay for a website and not only date another woman but profess great interest in her, I just don't understand. Why have a girlfriend at all? Why not just hook up with people and be who you really want to be? That slimy, common middle aged man?
Such a waste of my time, onward & upward.
