Hi friends!  Now, it is all coming back to me. The things that I need to remember to like, be, and to do in order to please a man. Here are a few things that men do and do not like:

"My free time is mostly spent playing pool. Most of my friends play pool. Most of my weekends, I can be found playing pool. Pool is fun." ( this is where I stopped reading… )

 "Signs that we may not be a match – you hate your parents, you don't love your parents, you pop antidepressants or anti-anxiety meds like M&M's." ( I did love my mother very much, I don't have much of a relationship with my father and I don't feel that a man should judge what medication I may or may not take. Do I take meds? I'm afraid to say it in public because apparently,  this is a problem for some men.  I'm glad this man is perfect.)

" sometimes I just need silence, and a sweet woman who knows how to be silent. So if your badass attitude and conversation cannot be quieted, you are probably not going to last with me past the party, sorry." (silence and sweetness are fine, but to put them as a prerequisite for a date? Seems weird. Seems like he might be just a touch controlling?  I'm thinking perhaps he needs a kitten.  They can be sweet, silent and even purr.)

 I will check in soon; no interesting conversations to report today. So I will use my time wisely this evening and work on my above skills. Xo

Hi to all of you wonderful women out there! I took some time off from blogging. First, life took precedence and being a single mother can keep a person pretty busy. I've had some personal things to take care of but everything is looking up. Second, I did date a wonderful man off and on for about six or seven months.  He is still a wonderful man and we are still friends - and in fact we are having dinner next week. That said, he does not believe in monogamy in any real way, and I finally decided that I needed to be more true to myself. It's baffling to me how somebody can treat you like gold when with you;  yet just look right at you and tell you that they are also treating two other women well, (maybe like silver and platinum, but still difficult to hear....) He was always honest and he is true and good but that is not my chemical make up. I have to be honest.

Ergo, I have gone back online and in all transparency? Well, there is a man that I like in the real world. And while we are friends,  I'm not sure how much he can give to me right now and so I thought it would be healthier to go back on and see if I could preoccupy my brain with some dates.  He is fully aware of this.

If I was really transparent on the website, I suppose I would explain that I am defensive dating. Defending my heart from becoming too attached to somebody that may not be ready for all of what comes with my heart. But is anybody fully transparent online? There are also a couple of my friends who are more than willing to be friends with benefits – I find even after 50 that is not hard to obtain? Is that the end-all answer?  Let's find out. Ready to go?

Example of "What's out there" below:


"D Man is always on the move, so he cannot have company. Please have a nice chill house for him to come to after a hard day.  I work hard and you can either trust where I have been all day or not. If not, you can find the door. Please have real food for me when I get there, no frozen pizza or Doritos or snickers. D man needs to be taken care of. "



I  don't know about you ladies, but I am one smitten kitten.