Hi to all of you wonderful women out there! I took some time off from blogging. First, life took precedence and being a single mother can keep a person pretty busy. I've had some personal things to take care of but everything is looking up. Second, I did date a wonderful man off and on for about six or seven months.  He is still a wonderful man and we are still friends - and in fact we are having dinner next week. That said, he does not believe in monogamy in any real way, and I finally decided that I needed to be more true to myself. It's baffling to me how somebody can treat you like gold when with you;  yet just look right at you and tell you that they are also treating two other women well, (maybe like silver and platinum, but still difficult to hear....) He was always honest and he is true and good but that is not my chemical make up. I have to be honest.

Ergo, I have gone back online and in all transparency? Well, there is a man that I like in the real world. And while we are friends,  I'm not sure how much he can give to me right now and so I thought it would be healthier to go back on and see if I could preoccupy my brain with some dates.  He is fully aware of this.

If I was really transparent on the website, I suppose I would explain that I am defensive dating. Defending my heart from becoming too attached to somebody that may not be ready for all of what comes with my heart. But is anybody fully transparent online? There are also a couple of my friends who are more than willing to be friends with benefits – I find even after 50 that is not hard to obtain? Is that the end-all answer?  Let's find out. Ready to go?

Example of "What's out there" below:


"D Man is always on the move, so he cannot have company. Please have a nice chill house for him to come to after a hard day.  I work hard and you can either trust where I have been all day or not. If not, you can find the door. Please have real food for me when I get there, no frozen pizza or Doritos or snickers. D man needs to be taken care of. "



I  don't know about you ladies, but I am one smitten kitten.