Online ADD

This evening's views of my profile were...eclectic. I think that's the trendy, polite way of saying they were bizarre. But I suppose it's good to know that there is such a variety of men online. Whether you might like Shorty who is pretty much just that...or Pigeon, from Tx,  who claims to love hunting, fishing and shoe shopping with women, or an old favorite; fast Eddie, who is 80 years old, but claims to be very active because of his blue pills! I suppose that there is someone for everyone.

My profile specifically says "please be in the New York area", and yet all of these gentlemen seem to come from the deep South or the Midwest. They make no mention of wanting to relocate either...

I referred earlier to my favorite term, online ADD. (this line is actually credited to a friend that I've made during this process. A real friend, a grown up man! Trust me, this is a rarity and should be cherished...) I feel like what happens with online dating is there is always somebody else to choose from, and always something else to look at and the grass is always greener.... Not much else could explain the interest and lack of interest back and forth, back and forth at such a rapid rate. No sooner do we agree to chat with somebody,  but then that somebody vanishes. Fast as lightening. The internet seems to kill off any sense of putting effort into a conversation or a relationship.

I had a very nice marine talk with me a few times online,  and even ask me for my personal email address. I agreed, and we exchanged a few emails over a couple of days.  I thought that we were getting along. He said that he thought we were hitting it off and that he would love to meet me. I invited him to a museum opening (a place that I thought would be nice and public and safe, and still fun/trendy, the re-opening of the Queens museum where my amazing friend Lindsy has a gorgeous Tiffany exhibit....but I digress) in an email - and I never heard back again. Why? Why not just say 'no thanks' 'met someone thinner' 'I hate museums'...anything!? How were these men raised by their mothers? I feel like hopping around online is a right. But once you've requested a personal email or phone # and actually talked offline a few times, it might be nice to say "I'm moving on" if you are actually the one suggesting to meet. Manners. Thoughtfulness. These are good qualities.

Online dating appears to be something like an adult candy store where "adult" men have trouble making a selection; even if they manage to run the rest of their lives and careers quite (supposedly/according to their puffed up profiles) successfully and obviously are capable of making decisions in other areas.

This is frustrating but harmless. In my next entry will tell you about some situations that were not harmless.  Fake profiles, scammers and people that are just seemingly very lonely and looking to talk to somebody, anybody, at any expense.